Numerous blogs by teenagers across the net beg “please save my relationship”. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is one of the biggest events in a teenager’s life. It brings about a certain electrifying feeling that makes you go “crazy” but also feel inspired and happy. You like the feeling of loving someone and being loved in return. It’s great to have someone besides your family who actually cares about you and thinks about you all the time.
However, as the relationship goes through its natural ups and downs and time marches on, that initial feeling of thrilling craziness subsides. But if the relationship steps up to the next level, one with stillness, comfort, and dependability, it’s a good indicator than a long-term relationship can be built.
But on the other hand, if matters get worse – no matter how you much you love him or her or how much he or she loves you – if one of you no longer feels that “spark”, there is nothing you or they can do to make the other feel that way again. Many don’t realize that for a relationship to work long-term, it is not a flickering spark that is needed but a slow and steadily burning flame.
If it comes to the point where things are no longer working, talk about it. You will not be bitter towards each other if you talk about it and just work through it. What’s important is that you are open to each other and don’t be selfish. Don’t force something that’s no longer happening. Saving your relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you will end up together as a romantic couple. Sometimes the best way to save your relationship is to just be friends. You still have saved that relationship, just not perhaps in the way you would have hoped for. Just like what the saying goes, “If you truly love someone, set them free.” Move on and live life.
Every person is unique and it is only you who defines who you are. The point here is that this relationship is not the one and only relationship you will ever have in your life. And, you should never change who you are just to be with someone else, even if you love them. It will never work out. You must be true to yourself and who you are. If you don’t, in time, you’ll likely become upset and resentful towards your partner because you might feel they don’t fully accept and love you for who you really are.
The secret to any happy and nurturing relationship is open communication because you become transparent to each other and learn to meet halfway. “Please save my relationship” – these words don’t ever have to leave your lips to know you did your best while you were together. Just be true to who you are and if this person is not the right one for you, eventually that perfect person will come along and you will be happy you waited for someone who will love and accept you just as you are.